Discovering Independence

Children love to do things by themselves. Sometimes we find ourselves taking over a task because we can get it done faster, less messily and with more skill, but it is this very act which takes away a child’s confidence in themselves. They trust us to teach them, guide them and allow them time to master a skill. They want to do all the tasks that we consider mundane. By doing it for them we deny the innate capacity and true nature of learning that exists inside us all, the very drive for discovery and learning.

Slow down parents. It’s okay if you have to wipe the table and change the top, because you are instilling a confidence in your child to master new skills, take on new challenges and be confident in their growing independence. It’s okay too when you have to make it quick! But remember, as much as you can, let them have a turn.

“Let me do it by myself”, a cry so often heard by the 3 year old child. With a smile, slowing down a dash and believing in your child, you can encourage trust and confidence by your belief in them. Know they have got this!